What do I mean by a success rate of 90%?  This means that 9 out of 10 youth will reach a level of functionality in their school and the community without engaging in crime or drug activity.  This solution is remarkably simple and applies to males, based on real results. 

1.  Consistency.  Children in trouble are lacking a consistent and positive role model in their lives.  Most of the time, that missing role model is male.  As the "men" are about spreading their DNA among the girls, they fail to take responsibility for their actions.  As a result, there are many boys growing up learning how to be "men" from the music they hear, the negative examples on the street, television and video games.  They seek the definition of what it means to be male and will get it any means they can.  Even if it means that contact will last a few hours for just once a week, that's enough for many children.

2.  Unconditional Positive Regard.  Many children do not enjoy the unconditional positive regard from a caring adult.  They seek acceptance from someone, whether it's a gang or a leader of one.  They just need one person to care enough to listen every once in a while and will accept them no matter what.

3.  Access.  The absence of a caring adult (typically a male) means that they must fill that void through contact with several adult males in supporting roles.  For example, a coach at the Boys & Girls Club, a guidance counselor at school, a basketball coach, and others who provide affirmation.  Plugging them into these resources keeps them busy and provides a network of accountability that's missing in most children who are lost.

4. Positive male examples that illustrate the love of Christ.  Many children who never had experienced a caring male adult look after their interests have difficulty accepting the concept of God.  For someone to perceive the heavenly father as caring and accessible, they need real-life examples to illustrate the point.  If every male they encounter is distant, uncaring, un-involved and violent, they encounter difficulties accepting that a God, described as male, to look after them and to guide them. They seek examples and the truth in what they see and hear.  They look for clarity.  Providing that support and an example opens the door for a receptive conversation about Christ.

5.  Recognition of systemic limitations.  It's not the youth program.  A youth program is nothing but a piece of paper to justify an expense and to bankroll salaries.  It's all about the people running the youth program.  Children will connect to a person, not a program.  What's sad is that many people in social services simply hide in helping professions because they don't know what else to do with their lives.  Many handle their paperwork because, "if it's not written, it wasn't done."  Well, guess what?  If you spend your time writing, nothing gets accomplished except a few notes, a report and a paycheck.  Degrees and titles mean squat.  Numbers, reports and proposals are prepared to the money that's available in order to keep people working.

On the other hand, there are many dedicated and committed people who go the extra mile to serve the best interest of youth.  Your job is to quickly separate the incompetent workers who are there for a paycheck from those who really put themselves out there to help.  Since there are so many children and so few of these "angels", the squeaky wheel gets the grease.  Ask the child if he connected to anyone at the program.  Make calls.  Contribute a few dollars to earmark a particular activity.  Ask questions of which counselor or coach is most committed.  Every youth program has that "cool" counselor that will do anything he/she needs to get the job done.  It's all about what the job requires and there's no time clock.  That's the person you're looking for at every contact the child has whether it's at school or the community.

6.  Recreation.  They learn as they go.  The context of that recreation and the situation that arise is what determine what they learn as they have their fun.  Recreation goes a long way in teaching them courtesy, consideration, understanding, tolerance, restraint and fairness. 

7.  Expansion of their world view.   Many counselors and youth workers seek to talk about the street corner.  Their objective is to discuss alternatives to the street corner.  This is a well-intentioned exercise that results, many times, in a contest of wits.  Try expanding their perception of the world so their view of the street corner changes.  How is this done?  It's simple.  Let's say Carlos perceives that street corner as the capital of his neighborhood.  Don't argue with him because he's right.  It is the capital.  Now, show him the real capital.  Visit Washington, D.C. and tour the museums, visit the White House, and the Capitol Building.  Take a trip.  He may complain the entire way to avoid looking interested.  Believe me, he's interested.  If he likes money, visit the history of natural history.  They have diamonds and rubies that are bigger than any of the ugly jewelry on the street.  Upon return to the neighborhood, his world view has changed.  His perception of that street corner will also change--and it will no longer be the capital of the neighborhood.  In the meantime, you accomplished a few of the other goals above.

8.  Youth don't care about what you know.  They look for examples that you care.  At that point, they may seek, or accept, what you have to say.

9.  Youth are action oriented.  You must operate on their level to reach them.  And although this makes sense, most people simply don't do it.  For example, we've heard it a thousand times that we must look at it from their point of view to understand what they have to say.  And yet, many people don't.  Here's an example.  Let's say you're a youth worker and you are employed by a county, or city, agency in a tall building separated from the child's neighborhood.  Look at the symbolism behind that situation.  There's a sea of small houses and there's a monolithic building in the center of it all.  And if that building also houses law enforcement related offices, the children and youth office, and other "authoritarian" services, they may resent you immediately.  Why?  Many children, and their families, resent and distrust systems.  Review Rule #5.  There's always someone, a youth worker, who broke a promise, lied, didn't follow-through or broke a rule without a consequence.  If you work "in that building" then expect to receive the flak that accompanies it.